The living tradition, which we share, draws from many sources:
Direct experience of that transcending mystery and wonder, affirmed in all cultures, which moves us to a renewal of the spirit and an openness to the forces that create and uphold life.
Words and deeds of prophetic women and men, which challenge us to confront powers and structures of evil with justice, compassion, and the transforming power of love.
Wisdom from the world's religions, which inspires us in our ethical and spiritual life.
Jewish and Christian teachings, which call us to respond to God's love by loving our neighbors as ourselves.
Humanist teachings, which counsel us to heed the guidance of reason and the results of science, and warn us against idolatries of the mind and spirit.
Spiritual teachings of earth-centered traditions, which celebrate the sacred circle of life and instruct us to live in harmony with the rhythms of nature.
Focusing on Friends and Family
The start of the holiday season can cause many people to struggle - family relationships can leave you feeling depleted and unsure of your next steps. Familial relationships can be some of the most confusing and complicated that we'll ever experience. Difficult relationships can be great teachers, but there comes a time when we just need peace. Peace can look different to all of us depending on our circumstances.
First, know that the "perfect" family doesn't exist - in this age of Internet perfection where many things are faked and photoshopped, don't fall for the belief that perfection exists in every family but your own. In reality, every family can have drama - it's up to US how we respond to it, because we only really have control over our OWN responses.
Learn how to recognize if you're being emotionally sapped by another person and take practical action to protect yourself against people who are not good for you. A favorite meditation can help you stay centered and calm.
Protect yourself from common "control dramas" that arise when people are feeling defensive - recognize the behaviors of the intimidator, the poor me, and the interrogator, and prepare in advance what you want to say to maintain your calm and enjoy the holiday.
Get past denial and distraction and learn the wisdom of forgiveness. Unwind and release the limiting beliefs that aren't true and learn your life and soul lessons with gratitude.
Learning and implementing these skills and the knowledge you'll gain is indeed hard work, but you'll continue to improve your life and shed the old - just in time to start the new month with increased joy, confidence, and strength.
Adapted from Madisyn Taylor, DailyOM
Same Choices, Same Results
“A change in perspective, behavior, or response can do so much more to help us move past issues left unresolved”
- Madisyn Taylor, DailyOM
October 21: Reverend Richard Kellaway: GUILT?
It's been an interesting several weeks, but not a very good one for truth telling This is a period immune to truth telling. Some of us remember; some don't. Where do we find truth? How do we keep our integrity?
Rev. Richard Kellaway served for 25 years as the minister of the First Unitarian Church in New Bedford, MA as a Minister in First Parish Unitarian Church in Medfield, MA, and continues to be active in the community. He also is one of the founders of the New Bedford Art Museum, and is a regular speaker at UUCN, bringing many years of experience and wonderfully thought-provoking sermons.
All are welcome.
October 28: Reverend Lilia Cuervo - Day of the Dead
Sooner or later, we all have to exit this life. But while we still have breath, we can determine in great part whether we live in fear, or live life to the fullest.
You are warmly invited to a special service of the Day of the Dead / Dia de los Muertos. This ancient Aztec celebration has fused with our European ancestor's traditions to become a moving and healing celebration in honor of our beloved dead. Let us celebrate them by bringing a photo or other memento for the "Ofrenda" (or altar) that reminds us of a special moment in their lives, and their effect on us.
The Rev. Lilia Cuervo, a native of Colombia, was the first Latin American woman ordained in the Unitarian Universalist denomination. At First Parish in Cambridge she also made history by being the first woman to be installed as a Parish Minister. She is a co-founder of the Latino/a UU Networking Association (LUUNA), and the initiator of, and a translator of several pieces for Las Voces del Camino, the Spanish language Unitarian Universalist hymnal.
Her degrees include a Master of Divinity from Starr King School for the Ministry, a Master of Demography from Georgetown University, and a B.A. in Math & Physics from Women Teachers College, Bogota, Colombia.
She has three grown children: Xavier, Nilza, Shani, and one grandchild Javale. She is married to Sam, a long time UU Lay Leader.